I encourage all married couples to seek counseling if when their marriage seems to be in a place where they can’t seem to move forward or make progress in their relationship.
When tension and stress don’t subside, sometimes seeking a professional is the best solution.
It can be tremendously difficult when there is no unity in your marriage, especially when constant disagreement seems to be central to every interaction with your partner. Sometimes that lack of unity results in overwhelming frustration. For example, instead of strong communication and supportive exchange, sometimes couples fall into a rut where they only have snippy or sarcastic comments for each other. Or perhaps both shut down and are unwilling to communicate altogether. Another example is playing the “blame game” and pointing fingers rather than working together towards resolution.
Often, neither side is willing to bend. When poor communication has been going on for so long, one may start to wonder if it will ever improve. Will you ever find common ground again?
My promise to you: There is a path forward.
Attending counseling sessions with your partner is a very strong step forward. I recommend Christian Counseling for a host of reasons. Christian Counseling sessions will help in your relationship in a variety of ways, including ways that you may not have expected.
Here’s why: Christian Counseling helps couples to reunite by keeping hope for their future focus.
Focussing now on your future together is tantamount to long-term marital happiness.
During your sessions, you and your spouse will get tailored relationship support from a professional. You’ll receive guidance around forgiveness and letting go of any persistent anger and resentment that may exist. You’ll be granted a private forum, to hear your spouse speak in a focussed and calming setting, which can be critical to opening the door for delicate conversations. Furthermore, both sides will be in a comfortable setting to apologize sincerely, if necessary.
But the advantages to Christian counseling sessions won’t end there. Ongoing effort will be required.
Rarely are there overnight solutions to overcoming deep marital challenges. It takes effort and perseverance, because it will take time to re-learn how to communicate effectively with your spouse, and to re-learn how to prevent unwanted frustration from returning between you and your partner. However, with practice and commitment, you and your partner will instill strong communication behaviors that will prove beneficial for years to come.
You will learn the importance of being mindful and intentional with your words and actions. And you will learn to commit more attention and focus with each other. These interactions are critical to practicing respectful and meaningful interactions.
Gradually, you will return to a place where you appreciate each other. You will look forward to spending time together and you will value each other.
I encourage Christian marriage counseling because it is often the best thing to do to get back on track. Not only will it put you back on track, but it will give you a solid foundation to foster your ongoing commitment to long-term peace and unity in your marriage.
If you’d like to hear more about the benefits of marriage counseling and are considering Christian Counseling, please reach out to Dr. Donna of Oceanlife Christian Counseling.
I hope this blog encourages you and offers you new hope. God bless you.
Dr. Donna M. Marshall