Trust, Transparency and Ensuring You’re Prepared For Marriage

Hello and thanks for joining me again!

In today’s article I discuss the importance of trust when choosing to marry. I don’t think it’s necessary to express how detrimental trust is to your marriage relationship. Trust is obviously vital, as anyone that’s been married will tell you. The intention of this article is to help you evaluate your current levels of trust, look at some factors you should consider prior to marriage, and to give you some insight into determining if you’re both ready for marriage.

Your mutual levels of trust will affect you and your potential spouse now and in the future. Trust is of critical importance to any relationship, especially with the person that you spend our entire life with.

We all have times that we question things about our significant other. And that’s ok. It’s natural, and perhaps even necessary for us to occasionally exercise introspection: evaluating our own feelings about our signifiant other. You shouldn’t feel bad for thinking about these things. There’s nothing bad about evaluating your feelings. The challenge is, to which degree does questioning our feelings mean that there may be a deeper lack of trust? And how do you know if feelings of distrust could severely impact you relationship in the future?

Some questions to ask yourself:

  • Do you find yourself being suspicious of your partners words or actions?
  • Do you you find yourself investigating your partners behaviors when you’re not together?
  • Do you feel insecure when you are not with your partner?
  • Do you share a sense of transparency together?
  • Do you find yourself being tempted to search your partner’s phone, receipts or computer?
  • Is your partner fair with you (patience, loving, listening) when you express your discomforts?
  • Does your partner claim that you’re paranoid or crazy when you ask normal questions?
  • Are you able to have conversations with your partner about your insecurities, without feeling bad in some way?

The importance of being honest with yourself

It’s important to be honest when you ask yourself the questions listed above. This is your happiness. This is your life and you must protect your sense of happiness. And doing that involves carefully evaluating your feelings and not dismissing your feelings. Being honest with yourself is the best way to prevent potential problems. In fact, these are questions that everyone must ask themselves prior to marriage, because they will help to prevent potential problems down the road. By being honest with yourself, you’re doing a very good thing for you and your future spouse.

If you were able to answer the questions above in a positive light, with having a sense of distrust for your future spouse, then you’re on a good path. It shows that you have a good sense of inner happiness.

Remember, the purpose of having a spouse is having an equal partner – someone that looks out for you, is committed to you, supports you, helps you grow and puts consistent effort into ensuring your happiness. And it works both ways. When you are married, you have the responsibility to do those same things for your spouse too. That is a true team and both people in the team must work for the happiness of both.

When there is uncertainty, look closer at “why”

If you find yourself questioning little things your spouse says and does, or you are hiding your own feelings, there’s no doubt that your relationship will face troubling times ahead. Even slight feelings of uncertainty and insecurity are an indication that there is a trust issue.

If you find yourself trying to get peeks at your partner’s phone, checking his or her emails or secretly trying to uncover details, it’s time to look closer at “why” you’re doing this. You need to address the core reason of what makes you feel uncomfortable. Don’t brush it off. You will only be hurting yourself and causing unnecessary emotional turmoil if you brush it under the carpet. Now is the time to resolve things, before you are married. Remember, your happiness is important.

Many things affect people’s feelings. In this case, there are a lot of possibilities of where your feelings may come from. Maybe a past relationship left scars of distrust that followed you into your future relationships. Maybe your current partner was dishonest and you’re still not sure why. Maybe you feel unsatisfied with yourself in some way. Maybe your parents had a distrusting relationship and that was passed on to you without realizing it. People are complex. People’s feelings are very complex.

Marriage relationship counseling can be very rewarding

If you have ongoing feelings of uncertainty, it’s a good idea to seek Christian Marriage Counseling. Discussing these matters will help remove the stress and weight from your shoulders. Sometimes even just one session can be very helpful. A counseling session will help clarify things to you and give you a methodical approach to understanding your feelings and creating a path forward towards happiness.

If you cannot discuss these feelings with your partner, consider a personal one-on-one session. If you’ve discussed these things with your partner and struggle to overcome these feelings, consider a session together with your partner. There are many options. The important thing is that you take action.

Trusting your partner is vital when going into the marriage. If you think you can have a successful marriage with unresolved trust issues, you will surely discover the truth when it’s too late. Unresolved trust issues do not go away. In fact, they grow and often lead to anxiety, anxiousness, paranoia and internal feelings of emotional torment. Preventing these feelings from compounding is important.

Resolve all trust issues before the ceremony

The time to address trust issues is prior to the wedding ceremony, not after. Getting married and merging your lives is complicated enough, never-mind if there are complications of distrust. The first three years of marriage can be rough just trying to combine your lives into one. With an unresolved trust issue it will only make it more difficult for you to combined your lives and be happy together.

When choosing to marry, I recommend resolving all trust issues prior to accepting a marriage proposal. Please don’t think that things will magically change after the ceremony. Things don’t change without work. Marriage takes even more work after the ceremony because both of your lives are now completely integrated together.

Thank you for joining me. I hope this was helpful. If you have any requests of topics that you’d like for me to discuss in upcoming articles, I’ll be happy to share my professional advice in my next article.

Rebuilding Love & Avoiding Emotional Connections With Others

When I refer to emotional connection in this article, I’m discussing the personal connection that’s established with someone of the opposite sex outside of the marriage. During challenging times in your marriage, you may feel the desire to connect with others in order to vent your feelings and frustrations. Or perhaps you make a connection in order to keep your mind off of your marriage. However, there are significant dangers associated with having connections with those outside of your marriage.

While all this is happening, a bond is being created with this other person. It’s unlikely that you’re even aware of the bond that is forming. This bond is something that can be detrimental to your marriage relationship. The person that you should be speaking with about your frustrations is your own husband or wife.

Emotional connections are real. People that don’t believe that it’s possible to have an emotional tie with someone of the opposite sex are wrong. It’s possible. In fact, it’s highly likely. And it happens so easily that it may surprise you once you realize you are in over your head. This is something I warn couples about when they come into my office for counseling.

Emotional Connections Are Often An Escape From Your Problems

The reason that emotional connections occur with people outside of marriage is simply because there is little, if any,  communication or connection at home with your spouse. While you’re both not resolving your issues together, you or your spouse may inadvertently search for some form of emotional relief beyond the marriage. However, this shows the importance of re-establishing your communication with your spouse. You must protect your marriage, even during the challenging times. That is why it is so important for couples to seek counseling if they are having difficulty working through problems themselves.

Relationships that are experiencing a difficult time are the ones that are very susceptible to a foreign emotional connection occurring. Why is that? Well, here’s one reason: If you are experiencing a difficult time as a couple then chances are you probably aren’t offering each other affection, support and intimacy. These things are vital to happiness. When we are struggling in our marriages, we don’t receive the happiness that we need. Often, the first thing that goes away is the physical contact. Sadly, if we don’t correct that problem quickly it can lead to bitterness, resentment and then eventually temptations.

If There Is a Problem, It’s Both Of Your Problem

You are a team. If a team encounters a problem, they must resolve it together. All of the burden cannot be placed on one person. Even if one person in the marriage is guilty of a specific offense in the relationship, then both people must work together to overcome it. Communication, patience and listening are very valuable when offering emotional support to your partner. Sometimes listening is all that’s possible to offer support to an overburdened spouse. It’s important to focus on the words of your partner and truly hear them, beyond the words they’re saying.

Marriages can be very challenging because people handle their problems differently. Every relationship is different. You know your spouse better than anyone, therefore you have the best understanding of how to work together with him or her. You know the cues. You know what certain words or body languages mean. Listen to these things and work patiently together to resolve frustrations.

Avoid External Temptations

Temptations are always present in the world. They present themselves in different places. Work, fitness centers, coffee shops and other places in the community. Temptations are why it is so important to try to overcome your difficult times as quickly as you possibly can. Protection your marriage from temptation is the equal responsibility of husband and wife.

Your focus should be re-establishing communication. That way you can at least work towards a place where you are on mutual ground. The kind of mutual ground that I’m speaking of is where you can move forward within your relationship to have feelings of appreciation, forgiveness and whatever else is necessary for the specific needs of your relationship. Relationships need different things in different moments.

It’s important to remember that both of you have love and that you both want things to improve. By recognizing this, it will open up your ability to show love to one another, which will help you to reconnect and reestablish your love connection.

I thank you for joining me and if you should have any questions regarding this blog or any of my blogs please contact me through my websites question page.

Thank you for your time.

The Importance of Boundaries When Dealing With Another Person’s Spouse

Hello and thanks for joining me. Today’s blog is about knowing your boundaries when you are interacting with the spouse of someone else. In today’s world being mindful of your interaction with someone else’s husband or wife is crucial, especially if you are a Christian. So this blog is to caution you on your behavior where someone else’s wife or husband is concerned.

Know your boundaries!

Be respectful of others marriages. If you and your spouse are Christian and choose not to have boundaries outside your marriage and where others are concerned, that is up to you. But remember that doesn’t mean other Christians feel the same way. Everyone has different outlooks when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex.

Some things to keep in mind

  1. Be respectful of someone else’s marriage and don’t overstep. By overstepping I mean being completely careless when you interact with someone else’s husband and or wife. Inappropriate advances such as hugging or kissing someone. Sitting on someone’s lap that is married to someone else or saying inappropriate things to someone else’s spouse are all things that are a potential threat to that couple and to you who seems to be irresponsible when it comes to your conduct around other married couples spouses.
  2. Dress appropriately. A gathering of any kind is where you should be at your best. That includes dressing appropriate.
  3. Don’t create emotional connections to someone that is not your spouse. Having an intimate conversation about your marriage or anything of a personal nature with someone else’s husband or wife instead of going to your own spouse is inappropriate. There is such thing as an Emotional connection to someone other than your spouse. Emotional Connections happen when you have overstepped a boundary that created feelings for someone who is not your spouse.
  4. Set boundaries within your own marriage so that there is not a doubt of what is or isn’t acceptable conduct within the walls of your marriage. I would also set boundaries for outside your marriage as far as other people of the opposite sex are concerned. It is important to be clear when it comes to the expectations you have for your marriage.

As always I recommend to all Christian Married Couples:

  1. Place God at the center of your marriages.
  2. Pray together.
  3. Fellowshipping at your Church home.
  4. Date Night (once a week) don’t skip it!
  5. Cuddle time at bedtime. (This is optional but I truly recommend it) Cuddling keeps the flame burning.
  6. When trying to connect make sure you are using each other’s love language if you have not completed the you can find it at www.5lovelanguage.com

Well, that’s it for now. Happy New Year and I wish you all a wonderful 2020!

Premarital Counseling And It’s Important Benefits

Hello and thank you for joining me. So today I want to talk about
Premarital Counseling. I know that many of you read the OceanLife blog for relationship advice, so Premaritcal Counseling is something that will benefit you in the long-run, whether it is because you have children in their 20’s or 30’s looking to marry or maybe because there is something within the Premarital Course that your own relationship could benefit from.

Did you know that Premarital Counseling could help you in your marriage today even though you have probably been married for a number of years? Let me explain. Many of the issues that are brought up during marriage counseling are the same issues addressed in the Premarital Course that Oceanlife Christian Counseling is currently offering. As a Christian Counselor in Pensacola Florida, we offer the premarital couples information on preventative measures to take to ensure that their marriage will be a strong and healthy one.

Our focus for couples is for us to prepare them, by explaining the importance of nurturing the marriage regularly so as a couple you remain strong in married life. We cover 9 different topics that we know will be beneficial to the couple by giving them the vital information from what the word of God says about marriage. Also included in the sessions, we discuss God’s expectations of husbands to their wives and wives to their husbands. The course is meant to prepare the couple for the journey through life as husband and wife.

The course also offers tidbits of information on various things like the importance of having a date night, how going over finances together can keep you both aware and informed of your financial situation, as well as offering important information on how to safeguard important documents once married. Other topics that are discussed in detail are communication, conflict resolution, intimacy and forgiveness, just to name a few.

If you are a parent or a grandparent and really want to see your family members flourish in their marriages, as well as thrive for tomorrow, then I recommend setting them up for success. You can do that by acknowledging the importance of Premarital Counseling and discussing it with them.

It is my hope that one day Premarital Counseling will be just as important as the wedding itself because I truly believe it is a wise investment into a couple’s future.

Until next time God bless you!

Understanding the 5 Stages of Grief from Loss

Hello and thank you for joining me. Today I want to talk about loss and grieving. Loss comes in many forms; a loss of a relationship, a loss of a job, a loss of a loved one, a loss of a pet. Loss is an extremely difficult feeling to get through and if you are not allowing yourself to grieve over the losses in your life it will take a toll on you until you are ready to confront the loss, accept it and put in prospective so that you can move on.

The 5 Stages of Grief

1. DENIAL –
At first it feels like it’s not real. It may be a shock that it even occurred. Sadness comes and goes and you feel like you’re dazed in disbelief.
2. ANGER –
Anger happens when you have come to the realization that it’s happened. You feel helpless and angry and want to know why.
3. SADNESS & WITHDRAWAL –
Sadness leads to withdrawing from your life. This is the time that you will cry more as you allow yourself to come to grips with what’s happened. Things are more serious with you for now.
4. REORGANIZATION –
Overtime, (and everyone’s different, there is no amount of time to give someone who is grieving) the important thing is that they do grieve. The light at the end of the tunnel comes back and your are almost ready to move on, but sometimes people don’t want to forget that person, that pet, that relationship –when there were happier days.
5. LETTING GO
The final stage is when you’re ready to return to your normal life. You may have tears from time to time but you’re over the hurdle of sadness. You are ready to move on. You have come through the storm. If you have God in your life you can be sure he helped to heal your broken heart and he will continue to be there with you on your journey through life.

Even after you have gone through the grieving process I tell people to come take your time with making any major decisions, at least a year. Don’t rush ahead of yourselves and do something you may regret. Take your time.

Thank you for joining me this time, I hope you will be checking back for the next blog when I challenge a certain group of people to do the right thing. God bless you and remember to; stay close to God.

Four Relationship Hurdles to Avoid at All Costs

Thank you for joining me for this months blog. The blog is about the four relationship hurdles to avoid at all costs. These relationship hurdles can often lead to conflict and tension in a marriage. If you do not currently have a good method in place to resolve conflict, that can lead to major issues down the road.  So this is a warning in advance, along with the suggestion that both of you, husband and wife, sit down together to discuss some of the better ways to handle conflict.  Having a plan in place will make both of your lives easier.
The four relationship hurdles are:
  1. Blame  – It’s true blame can keep a relationship stuck.  Constantly bringing things up from the past, can sometimes be used as a weapon. When someone is hurt, they will often recall the past again and again, and that can create further issues. Instead of continuously using the past as a weapon, it’s better to resolve the things of the the past, then agree that they are resolved, and then allow those things to stay in the past. Then, both must agree to stop mentioning the past during current disagreements. Blaming someone for something that happened years ago is just going to make them resent you if they don’t already.  Remember what Gods word says: If we want to be forgiven, we have to forgive others. But don’t forget, forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. After forgiving the other person, both must work to reconcile issues and rebuild trust.
  2. Sarcasm – While sarcasm is sometimes tolerable, it is also a hurdle that can devastate a marriage.  Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone who keeps making silly sarcastic remarks?  At first it starts out funny but then when you realize that this isn’t funny anymore things can get sticky.  A far and simple comment to make is: “Can we please be serious for the next few minutes so we can discuss some serious matters?”  But if that doesn’t work “holding back the laughter” just may help them to realize that there is a time and place for everything. Sarcasm is hurtful and unhelpful in serious discussions.
  3. Defensiveness – Being defensive sometimes happens when a relationship is struggling.  Years of feeling attacks from your partner can make you feel that you want to deflect the focus back to them, or attack them in return for the discomfort that you feel. Nobody wants to feel attacked. Nobody wants to feel hurt. Mutual pain can lead to two sided defensiveness. This is where simple apologies help a lot. Simply saying “I’m sorry for the pain and frustration my actions have caused to you” can really help. This is a time to realize you are on the same team. There are no winners when both sides cannot offer an apology from a place of love.  Often times defensiveness can put you in a state of turmoil until you resolve the “why” behind the feelings of defensiveness.  It may take some time but it can be overcome through prayer and by being sensitive to one another’s needs as well as by being tender-hearted and compassionate to the person you love.
  4. Digs – When I say digs I mean hurtful comments that are throw around carelessly to hurt or destroy the person you vowed to love till death do you part.  Hurtful comments, especially comments about specific things that are sensitive to the other person, are dangerous and downright cruel. Saying these things are often unfair attacks, meant to cause further damage and pain. In fact, serious digs can be a form of emotional abuse. It’s important to be able to recognize when your partner is offering constructive criticism and an honest opinion of something, versus saying destructive things to cause pain and frustration. Honesty from your partner should be appreciated. Digs should not be appreciated. There is a delicate line, and instrospection is important to knowing where that line is.
My advice to those that are utilizing these four forms of attacks, is to remove them from all areas of your life.  Take the time to look at yourself in order to remove these things one step at a time. It will probably be difficult for you, because growth and self improvement is challenging. However, it will transform your life. You can slowly remove these toxic behaviors from your life by learning to improve your communication about your feelings. Also, knowing the power of a simple apology is an incredible strength that will help you. Sometimes people view apologizing as a sign of weakness. In fact, it’s the opposite. It takes a lot of courage and strength to apologize.
Thank you again for joining me.  I invite you to join me for my next blog. Until next time, God Bless You and remember to keep God in your heart!

Keeping the Peace in Your Family Throughout the Year

Hello and thank you for joining me again!

The key to keeping the peace throughout the year is by showing love and kindness to your family members. This also applies to couples without children. Love and kindness, as well as always showing respect and consideration to the perspective of your partner, helps to instill a sense of unity.

What happens when couples decide to have children? You can utilize the same principle. Unity in a family requires mothers and fathers to maintain their communication with each other as well as to maintain a united front in front of the children. Teaching your children to love one another shows them that all members of the family matter. That is the key to having a happy healthy family.

When you do things as a family, that reinforces the fact that family always matters. Remember “a house divided will fall”. With love, communication, having respect and consideration for others, these things will keeps unity and peace in the family all year long.

A few suggestions on keeping family unity:

  • Work at keeping God at the center of your marriage.
  • Pray together as a couple/family.
  • Do a couple/family devotional together daily.

Another good suggestion is, at dinner time go around the dinner table and find out what everyone is thankful for. This alone will be one of the fondest memories that you all will appreciate for years to come. Ensure that everyone’s voice is heard so that everyone feels included.

Join me next time when I tell you the Four (4) Relationship Hurdles to Steer Clear Of.

Thank you for reading!

Family Origin and Managing Relationship Expectations

Hello and thank you for joining me again! Today’s blog is about Family Origin. So what is Family Origin? Family Origin refers to how a person was raised and the circumstances surrounding a person’s upbringing with his or her parents and siblings. Examples would include questions like:

  • What was the daily run of the house like?
  • What tasks did your mom do in the home?
  • What was your father’s contribution to the household?
  • Was he the sole bread winner of the family?
  • Who did the yard work?

The origin in which you were raised is possible for what may or may not take place in your own home once you settle down. What happens in your future home is completely up to you. Being mindful of the effects of your own “family origin” is something good to be aware of. You can choose to take the good parts and leave behind the not so good parts. It is up to you to be aware of the impact your childhood had on you and whether or not they are something you want your family to experience.

A discussion with your future spouse about each of your upbringings will help to shed light on the childhood experiences that you may want to share and even discuss the ones that you would not want to be a part of your family. Whether you were raised with both parents in your home or in a single parent home the traditions and the nontraditional moments have the ability to be brought both knowingly and unexpectedly into your future marriage/family relationship.

Managing Expectations In Your Own Relationship

Without realizing it, we often have internal expectations of our partner. A wife might assume that her husband will manage the finances and handle the trash removal from the home. A husband might assume that his wife will buy family Christmas gifts and cook for the family. Or maybe both have different expectations in how children will be raised. Having a conversation about these things is very important in order to prevent future conflict. Expectations can be dangerous, especially in our modern times where many traditional roles have changed.

Being married and having a family requires equal contribution. Contribution comes in many forms, such as:

  • Maintaining an orderly home
  • Overseeing the children
  • Financial contributions
  • Organizing family events
  • Planning future vacations
  • Cooking and cleaning
  • Home repairs and upgrades
  • Yard maintenance

We sometimes think that it’s already understood who will automatically which tasks in the home. However, when one person feels that his or her partner is lacking in contribution, it might mean that expectations are not aligned properly. Pre-marital counseling or marital counseling can help a lot with these issues.

The families we create are often similar to that of our childhood. We all have some wonderful childhood memories that we cherish. The memories of wonderful traditions that have been passed down with every generation are the ones that are so special that you promise yourself they will be a part of your own family once you marry and have children.

The impact of your “Family Origin” can be a positive part of your life passed down to your own children for years to come.

Thank you for reading I hope you find this blog helpful. Join me next time for “keeping the peace in your family throughout the year”.

A Simple Method For Couples To Work Through Difficult Issues

Hello and thanks for joining me! In today’s blog I will share my simple step-by-step method for helping you as a couple to work through those difficult issues in your marriage.

For starters, postponing a discussion that has been difficult is acceptable but brushing issues under the carpet, as a means to make it disappear, will not make the issues go away. It will need to be discussed and resolved sooner or later. In order to help you succeed in your efforts, here are some suggestions on how to help that conversation along.

First, let me start with what not to do. Do not approach someone with that difficult conversation when they have just walked in the door after a long day of work. Why? Because it will not feel like a discussion to them. It will feel more like an attack. When people feel attacked they often withdraw completely and they usually have a lot more difficulty focusing on the discussion. Forcing someone to discuss an issue that is important to you is not the way to handle it. The best way to handle it is by giving someone time to prepare for the conversation. This not only will bring a sense of calmness to the discussion, but it will also be appreciated and it is beneficial to both people in the long run.

I recommend the following methods to help resolve delicate issues:

  1. Make an appointment with your spouse by agreeing on a specific day and time for the converation.
  2. Mark the calendar and be sure both people are aware of that this appointment is a priority. Ensure that you set aside enough time for the discussion so there is no pressure to resolve the delicate issue quickly.
  3. Prior to the appointment, pray together. Pray for your marriage and for unity on solving this issue.
  4. Also, prior to the appointment, read scripture on marriage, anger and the fruits of the spirit.
  5. Prepare for this appointment. Write down your questions and/or answers prepared, along with any concerns that you have. Think about your perspective and what you think is the perspective of your spouse. Understanding each others perspectives will be vital in finding a solution that makes both people happy.
  6. When the discussion day arrives and you are speaking together, feel free to take a few minute pause if the discussion gets heated. Taking a moment to breath is healthy. Don’t walk away or make split-second decisions. Take your time with the conversation.

Remember, you are two people that love each other. You both want to be happy. Be kind and loving to one another. Think of the issue as the enemy, not each other. You are a team working together to overcome this issue.

Thank you for reading I hope you find this blog article helpful.

Join me next time for “How your upbringing can impact your marriage”.

Ensuring The Good Times Outweigh The Difficult Times

Thank you for joining me again! Today’s blog is about “Making sure your good times
together, as a married couple, outweigh the not so good times”.

As I mentioned in my first blog, date night is a must. You as a married couple should have a date night once a week to go and do something special together. It is a night just for the two of you, where the main focus is on spending a wonderful romantic night together, making memories and reconnecting with one another.

A word of caution, date night is not a time to discuss any, what I call, “Red topics”. Red topics are topics that usually end up cooling down the evening. They are topics that never end well when they are discussed, and usually have the ability to cause tension for hours on end. Two things that will ruin your evening so stay away from these on your special nights out and any other time you are trying to have an enjoyable time together.

Remember, this is your time to spend reconnecting with one another. Be mindful of the importance of keeping things problem free. Remember you are in control of what transpires. Here are some suggestions on reconnecting.

  1. Put the effort into making it special. We get so involved in our everyday lives that we lose touch of nurturing our marriage relationship. This is why date night is so important as well as keeping God at the center of your marriage.
  2. Use your words. This is a time to speak encouraging loving words. We can show outward display of affections like holding hands. Be mindful of the fact that this is your time to reconnect.
  3. Find out each other’s love language. Make sure that you are showing the person you love just how much you love them by using their own love language. Find out what each of your love languages are. Visit:  https://www.5lovelanguages.com
  4. Listen carefully to each other. We can all hear someone speaking to us, but listening requires your undivided attention. There are times when we hear what people are saying but we miss out on the message because we aren’t actively listening. When we truly listen then we hear what is being said.
  5. In a rut? Try the 5 to 1 Ratio. For couples that are struggling with getting out of a rut try the 5 to one ratio; for every 1 thing you do or say wrong to your spouse, fix it by doing or saying 5 kind things. The 5 to 1 ratio is by John Gottman. This method is referred to as the “Magic Relationship Ratio”. This is one way of flushing out the memories of the bad times by adding an overflow of good gestures.
  6. One last important reminder: In all of our relationships it is always a must to remember to “forgive” when someone has wronged us. For if we forgive others our Heavenly father will also forgive us but if we don’t neither will we be forgiven.

Thanks for reading my blog. Join me again when I tell you step-by-step a solution for discussing and resolving difficult issues.